5 things I refuse to do

I was running on fumes… I couldn’t remember the last time I felt like myself. 
And it was starting to feel permanent. 

So I started questioning everything… 
→ Why was I doing things the way I was doing them? (This is how my parents did it… that was decades ago…)
→ Where did I learn this belief that I had to earn rest? (I’m not even sure, everyone believes it…)
→ What is pushing through getting me? (nothing good…)
→ What would it be like if… 

Honestly, there are plenty of rules I changed for myself… But here are 5 truly impactful things I refuse to do now, as a mom who got tired of feeling tired. 

→ Say yes just because I'm capable. Being able to do something stopped being a good enough reason to take it on. Now I ask: does this give me energy or take it?

→ Earn my rest. I used to wait until everything was done. Everything is never done. Now rest goes on the calendar first - before it gets squeezed out by everyone else's needs.

→ Answer every message immediately. My phone used to run my nervous system. Now I respond when I'm ready... not just because my phone pings.

→ Push through exhaustion like it's a badge of honor. There's no reward. It's just exhaustion. When I'm tired, I stop. (Groundbreaking, I know.)

→ Wait for permission to prioritize myself. I spent years waiting for someone to tell me it was okay to want more. To have a voice and take up space. No one was coming. It's up to me.

I didn't lose myself all at once.
It happened slowly... one overcommitment, one skipped meal, one "I'm fine" at a time.

I found myself the same way.
One small refusal at a time.

This is what I mean by strategic elimination.

I invite you to give it a try. 🙌🏼